So I have a confession. After years of owning multiple gyms, 13-plus years coaching independent gym owners, speaking on stages, and building marketing systems for 350-plus gyms, I joined a CrossFit gym last week. Four sessions in, still can’t sit on a toilet without grabbing the wall for support, and I’ve got more notes on their member experience than I do on my own programming. Classic me, honestly.
Here’s the thing, walking through that door as a nervous new member, not as the guy with the clipboard, cracked something open for me. I got to experience exactly what your prospects actually feel when they show up for the first time. And a lot of what I saw, or didn’t see, is stuff you can fix this week without spending a dime on ads or hiring anyone new.
Why Gym Member Experience Tips Matter More Than Your Marketing Budget
Most gym owners I talk to are obsessed with getting more leads. More ads, more funnels, more follow-up sequences. That stuff matters (we build it every day for gyms around the world). But if someone books a free class and then ghosts you because they got scared, or they show up once and leave because nobody made them feel seen, your lead problem is actually a member experience problem wearing a marketing costume.
I was nervous walking into that gym. Me. Former college football & track guy (D3, not big time at all lol), someone who’s been in and out of gyms for almost as long as I can remember, spent years coaching in my own gym, someone who owns an agency that works with gym owners full-time… I sat in the parking lot with actual butterflies. Call me a sissy little scaredy cat if you want… but if I felt that way, imagine what your average 47-year-old prospect who hasn’t exercised since the Bush administration is feeling when they pull into your lot.
Kathy Balsamo, legendary client of Vince Gabriele’s, said it perfectly at Vince’s mastermind last November. She told the whole room she was more scared walking into a gym for the first time than she was walking into her breast cancer surgery. Let that be the number you carry around in your head when you’re designing your onboarding.
The “What to Expect” Video Is the Single Easiest Gym Member Experience Win You’re Missing
When I booked my free class at this CrossFit, I got one email. It said something like “looking forward to seeing you, if you have questions email us at this other email address (unlinked).” Cool. Who’s doing that? Nobody. That’s a passive offer, like asking your dinner guest if they want you to make them some cookies instead of just walking out with a plate of them. Dean Jackson calls this out and he’s right. Don’t make people ask for the thing. Just give them the thing. Friction is bad in a lot of places (there’s a bedroom joke in there somewhere), and it’s definitely bad here. Lubricate the process of your prospects getting the help they need and they’re more likely to get said help and move forward with you.
What you should be sending every single person who books a first appointment is a “what to expect” video. Not a polished, $2,000 production, a raw selfie video with you holding the camera works great. Walk them through exactly what’s about to happen to alleviate all the fear, uncertainty, and anxiety they’re feeling before they ever set foot in your building. Here’s what to include:
- How to find you physically (drive-up video works great if you’re tucked in a warehouse or tough to find strip mall)
- Where to park, which door to walk in, whether they need to ask for anyone
- What happens in the first five minutes after they arrive
- What the session or consultation will actually look like
- A warm, human sign-off that makes them feel expected and welcome
Send it in the confirmation email AND as a text, because texts get read and emails sometimes don’t. Oh, and one thing I’m genuinely embarrassed I didn’t think of sooner after a decade of telling clients to make these videos: pin it as the first post on your Instagram profile. When a prospect clicks your ad and doesn’t opt in right away, they’re going to stalk your Instagram. If the first thing they see is a video that says “here’s exactly what happens when you walk in, it’s not scary,” you’ve just done the hardest part of sales before you ever talk to them.
Your Instagram Profile Is Quietly Scaring Away the Clients You Actually Want
This CrossFit gym had content. Lots of it. But it was almost entirely fire-breathers doing impressive things. Games-level athletes, heavy barbells, kipping pull-ups at speed. Which is cool if your target market is people who are already deep in the CrossFit Kool-aid and are looking for a new box. It is not cool if you want to reach the lion’s share of your actual market: people who’ve never felt like they belong in a gym.
Those people, the ones who’ve tried and quit three times, the ones who feel like fitness was built for someone else, those are your lifers. If you can be the first gym that actually makes them feel like they’re winning, they don’t leave. They send you their spouse, their coworker, their neighbor. They become the referral machine that no ad campaign can replicate. AAAAAND they’re willing to pay more than the folks who already have their fitness “figured out.” The problem? You’re losing them at the profile level if everything they see looks like a highlight reel they feel they’ll never be part of.
Here’s what I’d put on those three pinned posts instead:
- Pin 1: Your “what to expect” video (see above)
- Pin 2: A success story featuring your most common ideal client, real person, real result, looks like your prospect
- Pin 3: A second success story from your next most common avatar, so different types of people can see themselves in your gym
If you’ve got a TV appearance or a big press hit, that can work as an authority driver too, but success stories from real members who look like your real prospects will almost always outperform it.
Call Your New Members After the First Session (Yes, Actually Call)
I paid for the most expensive option at this gym (a three-month unlimited paid-in-full). Signed up & paid online. Got nothing. No call, no text, no “hey, saw you joined, stoked to have you.” Nothing. I wasn’t grumpy or mad about it (to be clear, I really like these people) but did it make me feel warm and confident about the business? No.
After my first session, same thing. No follow-up. And look, I know what DOMS is. I know I’m not injured. I know my chest hurting when I breathe is just my pecs screaming at me for doing a zillion pushups in a Murph prep WOD after three months of hospital visits and zero training (true story, watch the video for more). But your average new member probably doesn’t know that. Your average new member is going to wake up two days after their first session, feel like they got hit by a truck, and quietly decide they’re probably injured and maybe this gym isn’t for them.
A 15-second voicemail fixes this. Literally 15 seconds. Something like:
“Hey Sarah, it’s [Coach Name] from [Gym]. Just wanted to check in after your first session yesterday. That’s a tough one to kick things off with, and you pushed through it like a champ. You might be feeling it today or tomorrow, totally normal, [insert a tip or two for dealing with DOMs]. Hit me back at this number if you need anything at all, and we’ll see you next time.”
Most people won’t pick up. That’s fine. They’ll see the notification, read the transcript, and feel like somebody actually gives a damn about them. That feeling is worth more than any loyalty program you could build. And if you’re only onboarding a handful of new members a month, which is most of the gyms we work with, there is no excuse not to do this personally, not automated, for every single one.
The 3-Out-of-10 Rule: A Gym Member Experience Tip That Prevents Dropouts
We used to do something in my old gym that I called the four or five out of 10 rule. I’d adjust it to three or four now for most deconditioned clients. The idea is simple: before the first session, you have a conversation where you tell the new member that you want them working at about a three or four on a scale of one to ten for the first couple of sessions. If ten is “I might actually die right now” and one is “I could do this in my sleep,” you want them hanging out around a three.
This does two things. First, it gives you permission to scale them back without them feeling like they failed. Second, and more importantly, it reframes the goal. The goal isn’t to crush the first session. The goal is to still be coming back in month three. You communicate that explicitly, and most people feel relief, not disappointment.
Then your follow-up call two days later can ask how they’re feeling and whether you need to throttle things up or down next time. If they say it was too easy, great, easy fix. If they say they can barely move, you’ve already primed them to understand that’s normal and temporary. Both outcomes are manageable. What’s not manageable is a new member who thinks they’re injured and quietly disappears.
The Seven Touches System: Making Every Member Feel Seen in a Group Setting
This one’s for my group training gym owners specifically, though it applies anywhere you’ve got coaches running sessions. We had a thing called the Seven Touches System, which sounds fancier than it is. All it means is that every coach needs to have at least seven individual, personal interactions with every client during every single session.
A touch is not “great work everyone” or loud cues to the entire group. A touch is saying someone’s name. Giving an individual coaching cue from across the room. Greeting them by name when they walk in the door within three seconds, Cheers-style. Checking in during a rest period. These are individual moments that tell a person “I see you specifically, not just the group.”
We also had a ten-second rule: if a coach is standing in one spot for more than ten seconds, something’s wrong. Get moving, get different angles, get to different clients. When members feel like the coach’s eyes are always on them even in a room of twenty people, you get the single best compliment a group gym can earn. One of our clients once told me she felt like she got more personal attention in our group of twenty than she did with her one-on-one personal trainer at her old gym. That’s the kind of thing that keeps people paying for years and sending their friends through the door.
Build an Onboarding Email Sequence That Educates, Not Just Reminds
Beyond the what-to-expect video and the post-session call, there’s a window of about two to three weeks after someone joins where they’re forming their habits and their opinions about your gym. Most gyms send nothing during this window, or they send generic “here’s your login” stuff. You’re missing a huge opportunity.
Build a short email sequence, three to five emails, that walks new members through what they’re going to experience over the next few weeks. For a CrossFit gym, that might include a plain-English glossary of the weird vocabulary (nobody outside the community knows what a thruster is, I promise), what to expect from soreness and how to manage it, nutrition basics that support recovery, and what the first month typically looks like for a new member. If you sell supplements or protein in the gym, this is also a natural, non-gross place to mention it.
Not every member will read every email. That’s fine. The ones who do will feel more prepared, more confident, and more like insiders. And feeling like an insider is most of what retention actually is.
Frequently Asked Questions
What’s the most important gym member experience tip for reducing no-shows?
Send a “what to expect” video to every person who books a first appointment, via both email and text. Most no-shows aren’t about forgetting the appointment, they’re about anxiety. A short, authentic selfie video that walks the prospect through what’s going to happen when they arrive does more to reduce no-show rates than any reminder sequence alone.
Should I automate my new member follow-up or do it personally?
Both, but not interchangeably. Automated reminders before the appointment make sense. The post-first-session follow-up should be personal, a real voicemail or call from the coach or owner that references something specific from that person’s session. Automation can’t fake that, and the specificity is exactly what makes it land.
How do I make new gym members feel less intimidated without dumbing down my programming?
Have the three or four out of ten conversation before the first session. Tell them explicitly that you want them working at a low intensity for the first couple of sessions, not because you don’t believe in them, but because you’re playing a long game. This reframes scaling as smart, not as failure, and dramatically reduces the chance they feel destroyed and quit after session one.
What should I pin on my gym’s Instagram profile to attract new members?
Pin your “what to expect” video first. Then pin one or two success stories from members who look like your most common ideal client. Avoid making your pinned posts a highlight reel of your most advanced members doing impressive things, that content reads as intimidating to the people who most need what you offer.
How do I make clients feel personally coached in a group class setting?
Use the Seven Touches System: aim for at least seven individual, named interactions with each client per session. Greet people by name when they walk in, give individual coaching cues during the workout (especially from across the room, it signals that you’re watching everyone), and keep moving around the floor instead of stationing yourself in one spot. When clients feel personally seen in a group, retention goes up and referrals follow.
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